C’est La Vie

English translation? That’s life.

Oh, and I added a pun too. That’s Vee, the blogger who runs a site called milleniallifecrisis.org. In case you haven’t seen her blog yet, please do me a favor and check out her blog. This blog post will make more sense if you read her blog post first (see image below for a preview). Thank you, Vee, for your lovely shout-out! ❤

 Meeting Vee


We both happened to be in the right place at the right time. The other day, Vee and I agreed to meet each other and chat over coffee at a local Starbucks. There is something quite relaxing about the smooth jazz usually playing in coffee shops, muffled chatter, and the smell of fresh brewed coffee. Vee is the first blogger who I had the privilege to meet in person from this wonderful WordPress community, so I am feeling very #blessed right now. Did I seriously just use the word #blessed in a sentence? Yes, yes I did.

I believe that every friendship needs to be built on a foundation of trust and respect. Meeting Vee made me feel at peace, and my social anxiety quickly subsided. In a way, I feel like we have been friends for a long time even though we had just met. Also, I felt a strange sense of familiarity as if we crossed paths before.

Fortunately, I learned that socializing with new people does not have to be scary. I often let social anxiety dictate my life so last week, I was really impressed by myself for stepping outside of my comfort zone. Because I am an introvert and a bit of a recluse, I prefer to hide in my house all day, everyday. However, I know that hiding is not a healthy coping mechanism. Not only that, but I recently learned that I actually prefer talking to people in person rather than video chatting or calling them on the phone. There is a stereotype that Millennials dislike making phone calls, so I guess I fit that stereotype! 🤷‍♀️

Finally, we should all celebrate our victories in life, no matter how big or small. As someone who deals with social anxiety and shyness myself, I understand how liberating it can be to push boundaries and face fears. In fact, I was initially drawn towards nursing school because I wanted to see if I could get comfortable with social anxiety.

“Every worthwhile accomplishment, big or little, has its stages of drudgery and triumph: a beginning, a struggle, and a victory.” ―Mahatma Gandhi

I am grateful that I had the rare opportunity to meet Vee in real life, and I hope that we will see each other again in the future. I am wondering if YOU ever met someone from the WordPress community. Who did you meet? Where you excited or nervous prior to meeting them? Please join the conversation and leave a comment below ↓

Thanks for stopping by!

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38 thoughts on “C’est La Vie

  1. Michelle says:

    That is amazing that you got to meet another blogger. My social anxiety can make phone conversations just as hard as in person. I agree that talking in person doesn’t need to be scary. It just learning what to do in that moment to make it easier

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      Speaking of phone calls, I tried multi-level marketing a few years ago and cold calling was my worst nightmare! I feel like people need to be naturally extroverted to do well in that market. 😓 Social anxiety can prevent us from experiencing new things in life, so having a “live in the moment” attitude can definitely help lesson the anxiety. Thank you for stopping by, Michelle! 😊🌺

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        I feel like I missed my chance to meet you which is sad. I am not trying to spam you with notifications; I am trying to clean up my website a bit and wanted to acknowledge that I read your comment. It looks like I missed a lot of comments from older posts. 😐


  2. ciccolady says:

    I’m so happy for you, i have met few bloggers as well, it was amazing, but they was from other countries, they stayed a while, it was so sad to say goodbye, i hope that one day i can meet them again🤗👻👽😻i think i know how you feel at least a little bit🤗

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      Hi Ilona!💜 You are so lucky that you got to meet some of the other bloggers. I know you got to meet Steve, and that is awesome. If I am ever in France I will let you know so we can hopefully meet in person. 🙏🏻💕

      It’s really bittersweet when we have to return to our normal lives afterwards. I had a happy feeling in my heart after meeting V in person from milleniallifecrisis.org, and it’s these happy memories that are so special ♥️


  3. wifeblah says:

    When I was so much younger, I used to hangout with other bloggers. That was probably 10 years ago lol. The first blogger I met became my boyfriend and eventually an ex boyfriend lol. Anyway the rest is history. I am happy for you Hilary that you gave it a shot. It’s a good experience. 🙂

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      So cool that you hung out with other bloggers. That sounds like a great way to spend time together with friends. Wow! That’s a really cute love story ♥️ I’m sorry it didn’t work out in the end…

      Recently, I joined a MeetUp group so I could meet other bloggers/writers. I figured it would be a good way to socialize in a city where I hardly know anyone.


  4. kachaiweb says:

    Hello and thank you for stopping by my blog. Of course I was curious about yours. I never met anybody from the WP-community but I’m also fairly new. I really can understand how you said that you actually liked meeting people in real life and how it differs from an online friendship. Now you know as the online possibility as well as the real life option, is one or the other more easy?

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      For me, it’s hard to meet people the conventional way (in person). I find that I can make friends but struggle to keep lasting friendships. Some of the best friendships/relationships I’ve had so far started off online, so for me online seems easier. That being said, meeting face to face eventually would be ideal. Not always possible with online friends who live far away. Real life feels the most genuine.

      Thanks for reading! 😇

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