How to Strengthen Your Resiliency

(っ◔◡◔)っWhat do you think it means to be resilient or have resiliency?

The word “resilience” is derived from the Latin word resilience, which means “to jump back.” Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity and challenges. It is the ability to recover quickly from setbacks and to return to your previous state of mind. Resiliency is not a trait that everyone possesses, but it is something that you have to develop and cultivate over time.

If you imagine what a resilient person might look like, a resilient person is someone who can face adversity, uncertainty, and change with confidence. A resilient person is able to adapt to challenging situations and they have the skills needed to manage their own emotions. These people also have a sense of control over their lives, they can take charge of their circumstances and make things happen. Thus, resiliency increases their chances of success in whatever these people do, and this is something that we should all strive for!

(っ◔◡◔)っDo you wish you had this superpower?

The power of resilience can be developed and strengthened through lots of practice and patience. Resilience is a skill that can be developed, and it doesn’t take long to see some of the benefits. First, you need to know what your strengths are. Then, you can focus on those areas or develop new skills in order to improve weaknesses and challenges.

Before we get started, it is important to note that not everyone has a naturally resilient disposition and that it takes time to develop this skill. All of us have different levels of resiliency which we should try to improve on when possible. Below is a list of 7 key things that you can do to build your resilience. Let’s get started, shall we?

🔑 7 Keys to Unlocking Your Resilience

🗝 Develop healthy coping mechanisms: To succeed in life, we need to find a way to be more resilient. It’s easier said than done when you don’t know the benefits of using healthy coping mechanisms. They might include exercise, meditation, and eating healthy foods.

🗝 Work on self-confidence: Resilient people are able to overcome any challenge and have a positive, can-do attitude. They believe that with enough work, they will be successful in the end. One way to increase your resilience is by being confident in who you are — focus on developing your self-confidence by learning about yourself on

🗝 Create support systems: Networking with friends and family can be quite beneficial. They provide emotional support when you need it and can also help you recover from a difficult experience.

🗝 Develop self-efficacy: People who are resilient have a positive outlook and understand that they have the ability to overcome challenges. If you don’t believe in yourself, it will be difficult to get back up when faced with adversities.

🗝 Set goals and work towards them: If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s that anything is possible when you have a resilient attitude. With goals and hard work, you can get past any obstacle and make progress on your goals no matter what challenges arise. When you have a long-term goal to focus on, it will help you stay positive and motivated.

🗝 Improve your problem-solving skills: Resilience is an important quality to have in order to overcome obstacles. People who are resilient are able to identify and solve problems when they arise. They also stay positive and motivated during hard times, which is crucial for developing a resilient mindset.

🗝 Be adaptable to new situations: People who are agile and adaptive thrive under change, they aren’t afraid of new challenges and have learned to roll with the punches. If you want to develop your resilience, it is important to improve your adaptability skills, so that you will be able to manage difficult situations.

(っ◔◡◔)っ ♥ FINAL THOUGHTS ♥

Our society has a tendency to glorify resilience and make it seem like we all have it, but in reality, resilience is not something we can acquire overnight. It takes time and hard work to build our own personal resilience. Even if you don’t like your circumstances or think that they are fair, resilience means that you accept it for what it is and stop trying to play the victim. How do you cope with tough times and overcome obstacles? Do you want to read more blog posts like this in the future? Feel free to join the conversation by leaving a comment below ↓ If you enjoyed this blog post, you might also enjoy reading 10 Ways to Change a Negative Mindset.

Thanks for stopping by! 💕

Published by Hilary Tan

I am currently in the process of finding my inner goddess as I search for inner peace, find mental clarity, develop mental toughness, and crush goals. Come join me on this journey so we can live our best lives!

51 thoughts on “How to Strengthen Your Resiliency”

  1. Pooja G says:

    I don’t know if I’m a very resilient person so the tips are very much appreciated! I agree with what you said about resilience being learnt. I think you need to have experiences as well as a certain mindset to be resilient.

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      Tbh I didn’t really hear about resilience or the practice of becoming resilient until I started university. I picked it up in my psychology classes and have been practicing it ever since. There were no lists or summary sheets so I created my own list aka. this blog post. I am the type who needs lists for quick reminders, so I tried to capture the most important points. Thanks for reading and commenting, Pooja!

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      • Pooja G says:

        I am absolutely a list person too. I have one for anxiety and depression stuck to my mirror reminding me how to deal with them in case I’m in a bad place that day.
        It was a great post and I learnt something new so it was my pleasure!

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        Yay! I’m glad that you liked it! I should seriously figure out how to use Pinterest and start organizing blog posts in a way that makes sense. In the meantime, I recommend bookmarking it for future reference! 😆

        If you’re anything like me, I will read a blog post and forget about the key points 5 minutes later. I have to read and re-read things to remember things! 😛

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        Your Pinterest cover is so cute. How did you do that? I’m now following you on Pinterest!

        I apologize that I haven’t created anything on Pinterest yet, but I have ideas. My Pinterest boards are messy and unorganized so I have to clean that up too. It’s just a matter of executing these ideas and we all know how that goes, or doesn’t go lol 😂

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      • Pooja G says:

        Thank you! I think I used Canva if I’m not mistaken. I haven’t done much to my Pinterest in a while so I’ve forgotten lol 😅

        Lol I so get that but I’m excited to see what your Pinterest looks like once you organize everything!

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        I use Canva for blogging and that’s what I plan on using for this upcoming project. I don’t expect my creations to look amazing or anything, but I’m curious to see what I can come up with. Some pins are simply incredible and I don’t expect mine to even come close to that, but it doesn’t hurt to try right? 😂

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      • Pooja G says:

        Lol yeah those that are pros at Pinterest make some amazing content but I think everyone starts out just doing their thing and having fun and that’s how you learn. Excited to see what you come up with! 😊

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        I still haven’t created any pins yet. I’m having too much fun pinning ideas right now. Idk why I was avoiding Pinterest because it’s much easier to do things this way than to screenshot ideas on my phone and bookmark a gazillion things on my laptop. I’m hoping this helps keep me a bit more organized!🙂

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        Looking at Pinterest, it’s a bit overwhelming. I’m up to 4 social media sites minus FB and IG (seriously, what happened?) I told myself I wouldn’t use social media but I’m realizing that it’s kinda necessary.

        Now where to begin with Pinterest. It looks overwhelming. I’m afraid I won’t find layouts I like, or ever get started because that’s the perfectionist in me.

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      • Pooja G says:

        Yup unfortunately sometimes social media can be necessary but I don’t think it’s an issue unless you get addicted so you just have to be careful not too spend too much time there.

        I get the struggle and that’s kind of why I don’t post on Pinterest anymore and just kind of look at everyone else’s stuff lol.

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  3. Third Culture Kid says:

    Those are all great! I would add that it’s important to acknowledge your feelings too. Growing up in a country where having a stiff upper lip was a way of life, I can tell you right now it’s a bad thing. I used to think it was a sign of resiliance. It’s not

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      Thank you! There’s a lot more I could have added to this list and that was one I didn’t add, but it’s still very valid. Thank you for mentioning this point from your perspective.

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  4. ZeroSpace says:

    A humorous spin on this – I just had a memory about a pet dog that got kicked by a moose in my parents yard and lay still and unmoving for 10 minutes. Then he popped back up and ran in the house for food. I literally just blogged that dog story. The memory seemed random, but now I am realizing I read your post first. I think your post subconsciously influenced that memory to come up because the dog thing is a pretty solid example of resilience.

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      Your story reminds me of another story of a dog. I heard this story from someone else where this dog refused to leave the yard long after his leash and chains were removed because he was so conditioned. So even when the restraints were removed, he would sit in the same spot and not leave. I think this is a story more about conditioning more than it is about resiliency now that I think about it 🤔 LOL.

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      • ZeroSpace says:

        I just did a whole audio post that is basically dedicated to you and your spirit but I can’t get the darn thing uploaded. When I am able to fix this irritating problem I will let you know.

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        That’s awesome! I need to give it a listen. I’ve been a bit “busy” and today has been a day of trying to catch up on stuff and being a lazy potato. Went to bed at 4am and I’m not proud of that. Sets up the rest of the day for failure and being unproductive imo.

        What’s currently been during me crazy: There’s something in my apartment that reeks and I’m trying to figure out where it’s coming from. It smells like horrible body odor mixed with garbage but I don’t think it’s me. I’m sniffing myself trying to figure out if it’s my husband’s t-shirt that I’m wearing but I don’t think that’s it. Something stinks and it’s driving me crazy. 🙄😓

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        I threw all of the clothes in the laundry (anything that smelled funky) so hopefully it’s the clothes and not the walls. I didn’t smell it today so I’m guessing it was the shirt I was wearing yesterday.

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      • ZeroSpace says:

        I finally succeeded in posting my “audio Hilary post” from SoundCloud to my blog. Shit took forever so I would be honored if you would check it out. Living out your pantry….

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        Hey Melissa! I’m not sure how I missed the notification but I am replying now. Is it still available on your blog? It sounds like you had to jump through hoops to upload that Audio clip. Do you have a link?

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      • ZeroSpace says:

        I ended up taking it down a couple days later because I decided it was stupid overall in terms of content and quality 😆. The premise was good though – how to live of your pantry and not grocery shop until every bite is gone. If I decide to proceed with that idea I may do a written post out of it.

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      • Hilary Tan says:

        I am guilty of doing this, that is, living off of pantry food until I must go grocery shopping, or until my family protests….whichever comes first lol It’s amazing how creative one can get with just the staples. I’ve even made jam from scratch before because I didn’t want to go to the store to buy more.

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  5. readandreviewit1 says:

    Amazing tips! I’ve been trying to work on my self-confidence for a while now and I’m slowly getting there, and I think being adaptable is such an important quality to have. Thank you so much for sharing x

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  6. meghanewhite says:

    My mom was the most resilient person I’ve ever known. It’s an amazing character trait that I wish I had. I’m glad I had a good example and I pray to live up to Mom’s wonderful example. Blessings to you Hilary.

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      It sounds like you had (past tense, right?) an amazing mom – that is awesome that she had this strong, admirable trait! You’re doing a great job following in her footsteps. Stay blessed. 🙏💕

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  9. Jenny in Neverland says:

    I don’t really know if I’m a resilient person. I’ve never considered it before or really been in any situation where I’ve felt I needed to be. But perhaps that’s just me being humble. These are fab tips x

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    • Hilary Tan says:

      Tbh I didn’t really hear about resilience or the practice of becoming resilient until I started university. I picked it up in my psychology classes and have been practicing it ever since. There were no lists or summary sheets so I created my own list. You are really lucky that you haven’t had to implement resiliency into your life, but I am happy that you still found this list helpful! 😄

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